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Just before I got married, my parents and some close family friends/members gave me a crash course on Marriage 101. It was an interactive session where they asked practical questions and I gave them the right answers. I had been doing my homework, researching on the institution of marriage so I was going in fully aware and oriented. Or so I thought.
Imagine my chagrin a couple of months later when my husband kindly pointed out that I just did the opposite of the solution I proffered at my parents’. Just a couple of months on, I was acting contrary to what I had said I would do! I was appalled.

It is not the only the acquisition of knowledge that is important; what we do with that information is arguably more significant. It will not do for us to follow this blog (or indeed any blog), read the verses of the Qur’an and it does not reflect in our behaviour.

We have huffadh who have memorised the words of the Qur’an in its entirety but do not act upon it. This is also common amongst us doctors; we give the best medical advice but seldom follow it.

The soul is inclined toward destruction as a moth is inclined toward flames. We know we will be harmed by it but we gravitate towards it anyway, against our better judgment. This is made worse by Shaytan’s persistent whisperings, seeking to encourage us to give in to our nafs. We have to keep struggling to keep ourselves on the Right Path by steering our baser selves back on track and acting as we know we should. With Allah’s Mercy, we will be amongst the successful, in sha Allah.



Been busy, that’s what. Truth is, i started blogging because I had a lot of time on my hands and a lot of thoughts in my head. I still have those thoughts, but not so much time.
I’ve been working on a project, a new one, while trying to finally complete an old one. These projects will affect my future directly. I hope. In sha Allah.

So, I’m sorry for the tumbleweed and dust and cobwebs covering my blog. I’ll be with you all soon. In sha Allah 🙂

Ibn Mas’ud narrated that the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) said:
“The feet of the son of Adam shall not move from before his Lord on the Day of Judgement, until he is asked about five things: about his life and what he did with it, about his youth and what he wore it out in, about his wealth and how he earned it and spent it upon, and what he did with what he knew.”

Just keep being patient with me and permit me to use my youth effectively! 😉


During the labour of my 2nd son, I had 2 thoughts.

1. I was involuntarily humming cartoon songs mentally – as I often do to keep my first littlet occupied – instead of the adhkaar I was supposed to make. Music is so powerful!

2. I couldn’t get my mind off Maryam, the mother of Jesus (ASW).

Here I was, in the back of the car, in the throes of pain with my husband speeding to the hospital. I had my overnight bag packed with a change of clothes for myself and the coming baby. I was going to be in safe hands. I would have support from my wonderful husband and his kind sister.

This baby was coming faster than I had anticipated, being a second delivery. I had thought he would take his time like my first had done but apparently, my oven was getting too uncomfortable for him. I had to keep reminding myself to breathe and not push because the urge was intense but I did not want to have him in the car.

‘It’s the Mickey Mouse
Come inside…,’ my mind sang.

‘No! Thumma sabila yassarau… Thumma sabila yassarau…ooh! Don’t push! Don’t push!’ I muttered instead.
*Deep animal grunt*
*Shallow noisy breathing*

We were at the hospital in record time and I waddled – through a contraction – to the Delivery Room. I knew I couldn’t afford to wait for a wheelchair. Right at the door, my water broke! I was ushered in quickly. It was a couple of minutes after midnight. I was having this baby any time from now.

And I did. A mere 5-10 mins after entering the hospital! Alhamdulillah! (I must have said Alhamdulillah a hundred times immediately after the delivery!)

It was pretty quick compared with my first experience which was looooooong and filled with Intense. White. Dazzling. Pain!

Then I thought of how Maryam (ASW) would have felt all alone in the desert, having her first child, with no support other than Allah – but then, Allah is the Best of supporters! Bearing the excruciating pain alone, no medications to dull the pain, no soft pillows to prop her up, no one to massage her back, mop her brow and encourage her. Small wonder she had cried out that she wished she were dead and forgotten!

The aftermath was similarly bleak. No warm food and drink, no soothing bubble bath and fresh linen, no respite to be allowed to sleep in a soft bed while relations cooed over your new bundle. Instead, she had to be subjected to cynical glances and derision at the hands of people who wondered that she had committed adultery. Still, she persisted in her faith and carried on her duties gracefully.

Wow! All I can say is that she was one amazingly strong woman!

So, do you remember your thoughts during labour? Have you seen a woman in labour? Please, share.


sisterhood award

Assalaam alaykum, dear beautiful people! My blog hasn’t been very active lately because I am working on a project which is time-bound. Gotta get it done ASAP!

It took an award by Sister Fatmawaty to get me to post today. I am grateful for the award, the ability to post today, and that YOU bothered to check up on me at my online abode. 🙂 Alhamdulillah!

In response to the questions she asked, here are my answers:
• Who is your idol in your life? Honestly, I don’t have an idol in life. I strive to be the best ‘me’ that I can be.
• Who is your favorite writer/ blogger? I enjoy Sister Maryam Amirebrahimi’s writings because they address present day challenges with insight and empathy.
• How many languages do you speak? And do you feel interest to other languages? Why?
I speak 2 pretty well, and another one manageably well. I would love to learn more, particularly Arabic, then French, maybe even Chinese! I love how people communicate better when you speak their language and how their eyes light up when they least expect to hear it from you.

• How old is your blog? 9 months now, Alhamdulillah
• Have you received blogger award, before it? Yes, the Muslim Blogger Award.
• How many hours do you use your time for blogging? Variable, depending on internet access and my schedule. I think about it every day though. Does that count? 😀
• Do you have favorite quote of writing? Please write 2 of them? Do unto others as you would like done unto you.
• Any humanitarian campaigns which you support/ or would love to support? I am not presently supporting any but I would like to join a group that fights Violence against women.
• What’s your hope for this ummah? That we unite, read more and be less judgemental.

Sister Papatia also kindly nominated me again so in response to her questions:

-What inspired you to blog? A need to put down the thoughts cluttering my head!
-How do you choose your topics? The topics come from whatever I observe that corresponds with the Qur’an or vice versa.
-Are you a morning person? Yes, because of my kids. Used to be a night owl 🙂
– Are you married or single? Married with kids 😀
– Any children if married? If single, how many you plan on having? (See above)
– What makes you happy? Once I wake up in the morning, pray, and exercise and see my family, am happy!
– What kind of food do you eat? Local Nigerian cuisine mostly
– Do you love nature? Gotta be crazy not to!
– What qualities do/did you look in a man? God-fearing, courteous, well-read, industrious, confident, humorous,easy-on-the-eye 😀

The Rules which need to be followed:
1. Provide the link to the person who nominated you.
2. Add the reward logo.
3. Answer the questions your nominator has asked.
4. Nominate 7 other bloggers and let them know via comments.
5. Ask your nominees 10 questions.

I nominate the following blogs:
Running my own race
Moderate Mama’s House
Under the Abaya
Old School Hijabi
Delusional Mom
Dooney’s Kitchen

My questions:
1. When did you start blogging?
2. What motivates you to keep blogging?
3. Where in the world do you blog from?
4. If you could have one wish granted, what would it be?
5. Choose one: public school, private school or home schooling? Why?
6. What is your favorite colour?
7. What is your ideal way to relax?
8. Where would you like to visit?
9. What weird trait do you have?
10. What’s your ideal weight?

Do you have any questions you would rather I asked? Comment freely, please! 😀