As-salaam alaykum, people. I wanted to write a post about loving for the sake of Allah but I’ve realised how hard that is.
You see, it’s much easier to love people you don’t know or barely know than people you know very well. Does that make sense to you?
In case you do not, allow me to expatiate.
Abu Hurairah was reported to have narrated that the Prophet (SAW) said: Allah will say on the Day of Resurrection, ‘Where are those who have mutual love for My Glory’s Sake? Today, I shall shelter them in My Shadow when there is no other shadow but the shadow of Mine. – Sahih Muslim 2566
Loving for the sake of Allah involves loving and helping people without expectations; wishing for them what one wishes for himself; encouraging each other to good and discouraging evil; excusing each other’s behaviours; hiding each other’s faults; rejoicing with them in moments of joy, grieving with them in moments of sorrow and agreeing to disagree when your views differ.
Muadh ibn Jabal narrated that the Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: Allah (SWT) said, ‘Those who love each other for the sake of My Majesty shall be upon the podiums of light, and they will be admired by the Prophets and the martyrs. – Jami’at Tirmidhi 2390
Unfortunately, while we tend to love our dear ones anyway, we do have expectations of them, you know? Even though we politely anticipate little or nothing from mere acquaintances or strangers, we expect our favours to be returned by loved ones. We expect our parents to bail us out of any trouble for all the love we’ve shown them over the years. We hope our children will take care of us in our old age following all the time and money we have invested in them. We demand that our friends stick out their necks for us because we have sacrificed for them too. Our spouses are expected to reciprocate our good actions or they face the axe.
He who expects nothing will not be disappointed. Man can only try but only Allah can exceed our expectations.
Sadly, it is exceedingly difficult for me to love loved ones unconditionally and have no expectations of them; and harder to forgive them when they let me down. #sigh!
Any one with a short cut around this?
May we be among those who will be placed on pedestals of light.