contd. from A Perfect Example.

The Prophet(SAW)’s servant, Anas –after serving the Prophet(SAW) for ten years said:

I swear with Him who sent him the Truth that he never blamed me even once for doing something he didn’t like, and that whenever he heard his wives blaming me for something, he always asked them to stop.

The Prophet (SAW) never in his lifetime criticised his beddings. If they made his bed for him, he would lie on it. if not, he would lie on the floor without quarrelling with anyone for that. He used to cobble his shoes and stitch his clothes by himself and assist in other household works.

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The Prophet(SAW) was extremely shy to the extent that he was never able to fix his gaze on a person’s face. He used to respect every invitation be it from a free man or from a slave. He used to accept any gift, however little it may be, and he used to reward it and eat of it, except it be sadaqah.

The Prophet(SAW) never used to be angry for anything done to him, except his anger be for his Lord. He always followed the truth, and executed what was just even if it was detrimental to him or his companions.

In one of his battles, he was in dire need of helpers and he was offered the assistance of non-believers but he rejected that saying,

‘I am not going to attain my victory with polytheists.’

The Prophet(SAW) sometimes tied his stomach with stones due to hunger. He used to eat whatever was available. He never disdained eating any type of food, as long as it was lawful food. He never ate food in a reclining position, or on a table. His handkerchief after food used to be at the sole of his feet. He never ate food to his satisfaction for three consecutive days till he returned to his Lord, not due to poverty and not due to miserliness. He just preferred it like that. He used to visit the sick and attend the funerals of the dead, and walk among his enemies without a bodyguard.

He was the most modest of men and the most silent of them when there was nothing to talk about and the most eloquent when there was a message to convey.

He used to wear any dress available and ride any animal and carry on his donkey with him, even a slave. He sometimes used to walk long distances barefooted and bareheaded. He was however, particularly interested in good perfumes. He abhorred evil smells.

He used to sit with the poor and he used to dine with them. He used to honour men of esteem and draw them closer to him by doing good to them. He used to do good to his relatives but never placed them above those who were better than they.

He was never harsh or rude to anyone. He always accepted the apology of anyone who apologised to him. He sometimes joked but he always said the truth even in his jokes. He used to laugh but never with a guffaw. People used to raise their voices over his and he would be patient. He had male and female slaves. He never distinguished himself from them in food or dress.

The Prophet (SAW) never despised a poor man solely because of his poverty and he never had a reverential awe of a king just because of his position. He invited all to Allah on equal basis.
He always met people with the greeting of salaam. If someone shook his hand, he never withdrew his hand till the man withdrew his. Whenever he met his companion, he always stretched his hand first to him for a handshake. He always sat down with the remembrance of Allah and always got up with the same.

If someone came to him and met him praying, he would shorten his prayers and then turn to them and say: Do you have any problem? After solving the man’s problem, he would return to his prayers, if he so wished.

The Prophet (SAW) in the midst of his companions never had any seat reserved for him. It was always his custom to sit wherever there was space. And in most cases, he would sit facing the Qiblah.

The Prophet(SAW) used to honour anyone who entered upon him, with a pillow (cushion). If the person declined to accept it, he would insist. He used to pay equal attention to all sitting with him, giving everyone the impression that he was the Prophet(SAW)’s most beloved one in the group.

Whenever the Prophet(SAW) got up from a meeting, he would say:

Glory to You, oh Lord, and praises. I bear witness that there is no god but you. I seek your forgiveness and return to you with my sins.

Then he would add: this is what Jibril taught me.

O servant of Allah!
This is a brief description of the general conduct of the apostle Allah chose for you as your teacher and friend.

It is not a story told just for fun. It is a model we are all required to emulate in our daily lives (Q33.21) Imam Tirmidhi has explained that the verse is commanding every Muslim to obey the Prophet(SAW) and to follow his footsteps in everything.

May Allah the Almighty help us all in that and in every other thing that will draw His blessings nearer to us in this world and in the next. Ameen.

And finally, here’s a link to get a better glimpse of the Rasul(SAW) here


A PERFECT EXAMPLE 9.128, 33.21

Back in the university several years ago, we had an Imam who gave one really beautiful Khutbah on Jumuah. I got a copy of it and kept it for years. I stumbled across it recently and will share it with you. It was about the Prophet of Allah by Dr. Saleh Okenwa, presently a commissioner at NAHCON. It is quite lengthy so I will post it in 2 parts, in sha Allah.

In The Name of Allah, The Most Beneficent, The Most Merciful.

All praise is due to Allah, He who engulfed everything He created in mercy and knowledge, and conferred on His believing servants innumerable favours and gifts, and raised unto them an Apostle from amongst themselves, being the most honoured of the Arabs and non-Arabs alike; a Prophet who outweighed every creature in wisdom and clemency, the most intelligent of men, the firmest of them in certitude and resolution, the purest of them in spirit and body, and the most exalted of them in character.

Oh servants of Allah, certainly Allah, the Most Beneficent, the Most Merciful engulfed everything He created in bounties and mercy. And lo! One of His greatest acts of benevolence and mercy to His servants is that He raised unto them from amongst themselves, apostles who release His verses to them in their own tongue, and instruct them in the scriptures, and explain to them their requirements, that He may bring them out of the darkness of sin and perdition, to the light of reason and guidance. And the benevolence of Allah to us –we Muslims- and His gifts, have been exceptionally great for He selected for us, the Chief Imam of His apostles and messengers: Muhammad, the son of Abdullah, who is in essence the emblem of Allah’s mercy to mankind. He sent him to us as a witness, a bearer of good tidings and a warner, and as one who invites to Allah’s Grace by His leave, and a lamp that spreads light.

He adorned him with the greatest human qualities and the most exalted character. He made him the most merciful apostle to his followers, and the kindest of men, and the most benevolent of creatures.

And surely, our Lord has spoken the truth when he says in his Holy Book:

Now has come to you, an apostle from amongst yourselves. It grieves him that you should perish; ardently anxious is he over you, and to the believers he is most kind and merciful. Q9.128

Imam Muslim has narrated from Abu Hurairah (R.A.) that the Prophet (SAW) was asked during one of his battles with the unbelievers to invoke a curse upon those who rejected Allah and His Messenger and subjected the believers to undue hardship, but that he said:

I have only been sent as a mercy, not a curser.

And in general, whenever the Prophet was asked to make an imprecation or a curse against someone, he would change that to a prayer for Allah’s guidance for that person.

The Prophet, throughout his life, never hit a person with his hand except it be in the cause of Allah. He never retaliated for anything done to him except it be for the sake of Allah. Whenever he was asked to choose between two things, he always chose the easier of the two except there be a sin in that. Whenever, someone came to him with a problem, the Prophet always stood with him till his problem was solved.

To be continued tomorrow, in sha Allah.

Jumu’a Mubarak.


The Prophet has been exemplified by Allah as our model to follow. He was the epitome of good manners and a myriad of ahadith encourage good manners and gentility. The advent of Islam alone brought some semblance of order to an otherwise chaotic and Jahiliyyah-steeped Arabia.

Narrated Masruq: Abdullah ibn ‘Amr mentioned Allah’s Prophet (SAW) saying he was neither a Fahish nor a Mutafahish. Abdullah ibn ‘Amr added, Allah’s Messenger (SAW) said, ‘The best among you are those who have the best manners and character.’ Sahih Bukhari 6029

It was narrated by Abu Hurairah said: the Prophet was asked, ‘What admits people the most into paradise?’ and he said, ‘Piety and good manners.’ And he was asked, ‘What lead people most to Hell?’ He said, ‘The two hollow ones: the mouth and the private part.’ Sunan Ibn Majah Vol.1,Book 37, Hadith 4246

Jabir(RA) reported: The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said, ‘The dearest and nearest among you to me on the Day of Resurrection will be the one who is the best of you in manners; and the farthest of you from me will be the pompous, the garrulous and the Al-Mutafaihiqun…-the arrogant people.’[Tirmidhi] Riyad-us-Saliheen Book 1 Hadith 631

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Some good manners include:
• Smiling;
• saying salaam first and responding to greeting;
• offering your seat to those in need;
• exchanging pleasantries;
• listening not interrupting;
• joining the queue;
• showing courtesy by saying ‘thank you’, ‘please’, ‘I am sorry’, ‘excuse me’;
• being considerate;
• being gentle in speech and walk;
• treating people with respect;
• being neat and kempt;
• giving up your seat (when you can);
• complimenting people (without being patronising);
• following the rules (like Traffic rules, table manners, switching off your phone at a lecture or sermon, refraining from taking photographs in no-image zones, flushing the toilet after use etc );
• acting with decorum;
• introducing people to each other;
• not speaking in a language foreign to, or whispering and excluding, the third person from a conversation and so on.

I know we know all these. This is just to serve as a reminder to both you and me.

Do you have any more to add? Please drop a comment.

May Allah help us to improve ourselves and grace us with beautiful manners.