I used to write in my
diary journal, or listen to music to quell my anger in my late teenage years. After a while, I moved to nasheed (Muslim songs) to return to my happy self; no time to indulge in writing. Soon, I did not have the luxury of easily removing myself from the object of my fury as I got older. I learned to contain my anger and ruminate on it after I left the environment. I would stew in resentment and consider all the witty retorts I should have given – retorts I would have regretted anyway. This would upset me further and I would look for someone unfortunate to dump my emotions on.
I know listening to the Qur’an and making adhkaar is laudable but they do not appeal to me when I am well and truly
pissed incensed. Now I have learnt to channel my emotions.
After removing myself from the scene, I have to find somewhere or someone to vent to. Secondly, after ruminating on the offense, I consider whether or not to confront the person; oftentimes, I decide against it. Thirdly, I channel my grievances to Allah. I am fuelled by the anger to read more Qur’an, pray with better zeal, make extra nawafil etc so that Allah can answer my prayers to overcome the oppression I feel.
So, the source of my ire becomes my inspiration and motivation to be better 🙂
Side effect: It takes longer for me to forget even if I have forgiven. Hmm…still working on the right formula for me.
PS: I know I have an early post on anger but then, it’s easier said than done 😉