We have all fought before, whether it was a full-fledged brawl or the Silent Treatment. We are all human with different characters bound to rub off wrongly and cause friction; what matters is how the fight ends. Do we often blow our lids and throw a tantrum only to forget about the incident the next minute? Or do we quietly stew in fury harbouring resentment long after the incident vowing never to help again?
Whichever way, some of us are particularly guilty of refusing to forgive any slight wrongdoing, even after an apology. In fact, an apology seems to worsen the situation and makes it harder to forgive the culprit because we feel the person acted intentionally. We document both the perpetrator and the incident in indelible black ink in the black book at the back of our minds refusing to let go and forgive.
NEWSFLASH! We hurt ourselves more by harbouring such resentment. We erode our inner beauty and morph into pitifully hard, bitter creatures then cannot seem to understand why people don’t like us. Who likes someone who emits such an evil aura, a negative vibe?
WHO DO WE THINK WE ARE seeking forgiveness from Allah when we cannot forgive others?
Jubair ibn Mut’im (R.A.) narrated that he heard the Prophet (SAW) of Allah (SAW) say, ‘The person who severs the bond of kinship will not enter Paradise.’ Sahih Bukhari 5984
Let’s ensure that we end that feud today – particularly if it is with a relative. Go ahead and wave that white flag.